Dude, love your lifestyle. Agree, need to be careful in adult theatres today. You need to connect with clean, provable, people that can take you to the level of where you want to be. Selfishly, I'm available.
We sometimes go to a pretty active adult theater. We go mainly to watch and sometimes "show off." We don't let guys join us but find it very erotic to show off my wife's tits and pussy. Sometimes she sucks me off or I eat her pussy, in the theater. I have fucked her a few times, while others watched. We have done a lot of 3-somes and swaps with other couples but not in the theater.